In this lifestyle, watching another man be with your wife is one of the biggest fetishists going on. I love to watch but love having others watch me cum with a lover. So it's understandable why it's the big thing. I admire the look on people's faces when they climax or when seeing a person watch their spouse get pleased. Just wondering if anyone else thinks this fetish is understandable. Or if not your thing.
Love this.. just started performing on couples and it's been a great experience
I can tell you having a great time with 2 other couple (5 people) is a great thing when everyone gets what they want and desire. The facial expressions are amazing.
Not a Cuckold but love watching the wife with others.
TJ.
TJ.
we luv it. wife makes faces and sounds with others that she never makes with me, so its a win win win here lol
I love sharing my gf, as well as playing with another couple's wife in front or with him. Huge turn on to watch and be watched!
she loves having sex with new people we have just met, and I love giving her ultimate pleasure, and this is part of me giving her real pleasure.
Enjoying seeing one's wife/partner have sex with another man (despite the definitions one usually finds in the vanilla world) doesn't reach the level of what true cuckolding is or has come to mean, especially in the context of the lifestyle. While there definitely IS a small subset of swingers who enjoy cuckold-type play it often involves more of a humiliation vibe directed towards the husband and sometimes even some bondage as well, i.e. husband tied up and "forced" to watch wife fucked by a more virile man, etc. while being told how inadequate, small, unmanly he is compared to the "bull".
This misconception of mainstream swinging denoting a cuckholding component for married male swingers is not only way off the mark but it's also a little dangerous in that it far too often gives a very false picture of what the scene actually is to many single males who then treat women/couples accordingly. This, in turn, perpetuates the stereotype of the single male who doesn't really "get" what the scene is about and leads to trashing ALL single males.
We've been AMAZED over the years at how many single males think that married male swingers are cucks when that couldn't be further from the truth.
This misconception of mainstream swinging denoting a cuckholding component for married male swingers is not only way off the mark but it's also a little dangerous in that it far too often gives a very false picture of what the scene actually is to many single males who then treat women/couples accordingly. This, in turn, perpetuates the stereotype of the single male who doesn't really "get" what the scene is about and leads to trashing ALL single males.
We've been AMAZED over the years at how many single males think that married male swingers are cucks when that couldn't be further from the truth.
Very well said EvilDoers, we get very tired of the "cuck" label being tossed around when its being related to the lifestyle. No one wins in those scenarios, be it the couple or the single male.
Too bad having compersion for their partner isn't something more people learn about or try to fulfill in their lives, swinging or not.
Too bad having compersion for their partner isn't something more people learn about or try to fulfill in their lives, swinging or not.
We enjoy hot wife play, but not cuckolding. We both enjoy watching each other having sex, and we both enjoy hearing about each others sexual adventures, if and when we use our hall passes. We prefer playing together, but that's not always possible. We don't at all enjoy any element of physical, verbal or emotional humiliation to enter into our sex play. Respectful giving souls are the best lovers. That does not preclude a lover from giving it their all and being assertive once our lady's green light goes on. For us sex should be a positive, giving and intimate experience. Positive and intimate sexuality can be quite vigorous. Most of the hot wife play we are aware of in Salt Lake County, is respectful and positive. We take a pass on the dudes that contact us, that come on all controlling and or conceited when they contact us, or that write a profile suggesting that is how they roll. Same goes for dudes that use that approach in person. There are couples looking for that. It's just a matter of hooking up with people that are a good fit.
EVILDOERS wrote:
Enjoying seeing one's wife/partner have sex with another man (despite the definitions one usually finds in the vanilla world) doesn't reach the level of what true cuckolding is or has come to mean, especially in the context of the lifestyle. While there definitely IS a small subset of swingers who enjoy cuckold-type play it often involves more of a humiliation vibe directed towards the husband and sometimes even some bondage as well, i.e. husband tied up and "forced" to watch wife fucked by a more virile man, etc. while being told how inadequate, small, unmanly he is compared to the "bull".
This misconception of mainstream swinging denoting a cuckholding component for married male swingers is not only way off the mark but it's also a little dangerous in that it far too often gives a very false picture of what the scene actually is to many single males who then treat women/couples accordingly. This, in turn, perpetuates the stereotype of the single male who doesn't really "get" what the scene is about and leads to trashing ALL single males.
We've been AMAZED over the years at how many single males think that married male swingers are cucks when that couldn't be further from the truth.
One of our complaints about free MFM pornography, is that too often there is some level of humiliation written into the stupid script when it's a husband and wife with a single male. I guess you get what you pay for. Now good old fashion, we are all friends here, two men taking turns making love to a hot wife, now that turns our crank. We are even cool with sloppy seconds scenes. Wife making a tape of her fucking a lovers brains out, for her husband to watch later? Hell yeah. Just not some poor guy with his dick in a little cage getting insulted. We would speculate that 99.9999% of the couples that checked the yes or maybe box, for single males on their profile are not looking for cuckold experiences.
We agree with Evildoers. Cuckolding is very specific to husband humiliation. We love mfm, but not cuckolding as hubby likes to be part of the experience of pleasing along with the other male. Just because we enjoy mfm does not mean we are a cuckold couple.
Just to be clear, the term cuckold initially was used to denote a man whose wife was unfaithful and/or became impregnated by another man. This term was first believed used in England during the middle ages and is thought to be derivative of the mating habits of the cuckoo bird and it's habit of laying eggs in other bird's nests.
Cuckolding in modern times has come to mean the fetish of the male of a couple who enjoys being humiliated to one degree or another and derives sexual pleasure from that humiliation. Often, the "cuck" is deprived of sexual release while another man, often referred to as the "bull", has sex with his wife. Another common action in this fetish is that the bull will direct humiliating and/or embarrassing comments, or comments pertaining to the superiority of the bull in the sexual act, at the "cuck" and/or encourage, or by other means elicit, those comments from the wife towards her husband.
There are, of course, varying degrees of cuck-type play and it sometimes crosses over into other fetish play such as so-called "hotwife" play for a small percentage of couples.
Tldr; Single guys, make CERTAIN that any couples you intend to engage with in this type of play actually ARE into this scene and DO NOT IN ANY WAY ASSUME that all, most, or even anything more than a very small percentage of couples are into this type of play.
Cuckolding in modern times has come to mean the fetish of the male of a couple who enjoys being humiliated to one degree or another and derives sexual pleasure from that humiliation. Often, the "cuck" is deprived of sexual release while another man, often referred to as the "bull", has sex with his wife. Another common action in this fetish is that the bull will direct humiliating and/or embarrassing comments, or comments pertaining to the superiority of the bull in the sexual act, at the "cuck" and/or encourage, or by other means elicit, those comments from the wife towards her husband.
There are, of course, varying degrees of cuck-type play and it sometimes crosses over into other fetish play such as so-called "hotwife" play for a small percentage of couples.
Tldr; Single guys, make CERTAIN that any couples you intend to engage with in this type of play actually ARE into this scene and DO NOT IN ANY WAY ASSUME that all, most, or even anything more than a very small percentage of couples are into this type of play.
SLC needs a group for the HW lifestyle... we love it and are always looking for others that enjoy this as well.
Otown801 wrote:
I am glad this subject came up. I for one would love to watch Brandi with another man and also join in on the fun. I have no desire to be shamed or any of that. I just want to see her fully enjoying herself and see what someone else can make her sound like as they are fucking her.
That's called swinging...and/or MFM. :-P
Cockholding
Sounds like our Tuesday night!!
I'm fairly new to the life style and have a very hard time finding couples that are willing to play with single men or Or are in to cuckolding. luckily the few parties ive been to ive run into the same couple but that's once in a Blue Moon and some of the parties I have been to even though single males are allowed to the party you still feel exiled because nobody's willing to do anything other than have a conversation
Been there. Done that. Liked it.
We're more the stag vixen scenario.... I'm fairly dominant so not a fuck but we enjoy her having a bf then me reclaiming mine or joining in.
Any of you folks no where I can find this or one like it?
Have to say we're more the stag hotwife scenario also. Love seeing her get pounded especially by several large cocks when/if we can find them. By the way where are all the really big cock dudes?
See I already get that slithering “I’m a bull” front the single males when you look at their profiles and they’re nerds with little dicks. C’mon dudes. Really? If a guy is an actual cuck, he’ll want his wife or gf owned by a strapping, big-dicked bull. Having an average experience won’t quite cut the mustard. That’s where single guys get labeled. Confidence is good but being naive about what you are and over-confidence is grounds for verping.
And hell yes we enjoy watching with other partners. I’ve watched the Mrs do some porn star quality dudes and it’s really hot. How do we get arroused? Normally by doing something that is thrilling and outside of the “norm”. And the women do enjoy it. Don’t let your wife/gf kid you or reassure you that it’s no big deal. The fact that it is a “big deal” makes it more exciting. And pleasurable. Only we have to look really hard to find guys bigger than me. Lmao!! I’m being a smart ass. Nothing new here. 😂😂
Anyway, if we didn’t enjoy watching our partners having sex we probably wouldn’t be swinging. As well as the thrill of having someone new. Sex should be enjoyed. With everyone! Ha. Happy hunting peeps.
And hell yes we enjoy watching with other partners. I’ve watched the Mrs do some porn star quality dudes and it’s really hot. How do we get arroused? Normally by doing something that is thrilling and outside of the “norm”. And the women do enjoy it. Don’t let your wife/gf kid you or reassure you that it’s no big deal. The fact that it is a “big deal” makes it more exciting. And pleasurable. Only we have to look really hard to find guys bigger than me. Lmao!! I’m being a smart ass. Nothing new here. 😂😂
Anyway, if we didn’t enjoy watching our partners having sex we probably wouldn’t be swinging. As well as the thrill of having someone new. Sex should be enjoyed. With everyone! Ha. Happy hunting peeps.
Oh and we aren’t into the cuck thing. Just good sex.
I love cycling. Available for anyone, anytime 🤪
Not into the cuckolding thing but in a MFM situation I guarantee I'd have to sit back and enjoy the show.
We love this kinda play 
Are you SURE, MandL?!!? Look at all the fun you're missing! 
We have never been disrespected in any way with any single we have actually met. They are never the ones in control when the rubber meets the road so to speak. It is those that we have not met that have been disrespectful. Having the "I am going to own that" attitude........hmmmm......no sir you're not and while we are still on speaking terms for the next moment or two.....go fuck yourself.
We too are very much into the HOTWIFE lifestyle.I very much enjoy watching her get pounded buy a bunch of huge cocks. And she loves preforming for me... Not at all CUCKOLD