How many polyamorous people are on this site?
Here is how it goes with us, quoting a segments from our own profile:
"We are aware that love is infinite, and you can romantically love more than one person, but it just has to happen naturally. Love and or commitment can neither be forced or repressed for it to be beautiful and lasting. Romance, as is the case with all other forms of love, is expansive, and yes when we really connect, we will feel something special for our lovers; but our romance together has been expanding for decades, so it is pretty center stage. We are really a tightly bonded pair. We love poly people and we understand polyamory, but we seem to behave naturally more like we are poly light. At least so far in this adventure. Does that makes sense?"
"We are aware that love is infinite, and you can romantically love more than one person, but it just has to happen naturally. Love and or commitment can neither be forced or repressed for it to be beautiful and lasting. Romance, as is the case with all other forms of love, is expansive, and yes when we really connect, we will feel something special for our lovers; but our romance together has been expanding for decades, so it is pretty center stage. We are really a tightly bonded pair. We love poly people and we understand polyamory, but we seem to behave naturally more like we are poly light. At least so far in this adventure. Does that makes sense?"
Question... As a new and exploring member, I find it difficult to understand where the difference is between FWB, Polyamory, and Swingers. Don't we all fall into the same lifestyle classification? I understand what each is, but maybe there is more for me to understand.
Friends with benefits are friends who sometimes have sex together.
Swingers might be friends, or not, swinging is an encounter based on sex with multiple partners where everyone knows.
Polyamory is about long-term loving relationships with multiple people and these typically include sex.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=FWB
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=swinger
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Polyamory
Yes, they're very close to each other.
Swingers might be friends, or not, swinging is an encounter based on sex with multiple partners where everyone knows.
Polyamory is about long-term loving relationships with multiple people and these typically include sex.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=FWB
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=swinger
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Polyamory
Yes, they're very close to each other.
Maybe it's all too individual and wonderfully fluid to fit under the constraints of a label, or a hard and fast plan. People get blinded by expectation, and miss fantastic possibilities far too often. There is some level of beautiful chaos, that makes life and love an interesting adventure. If we want sex, and or lovers, and or partners, at whatever level of intimacy and commitment we desire, perhaps we need to work on being the type of people, that attract and deserve interaction with great people looking for the same things in life. Perhaps, we need to acknowledge that we already are, and always were those people, but we forgot, or thought we had to wait for someone to tell us who we are, or give us permission. To the OP, she is out there.....You will know her when she appears.
Sounds like we're all family. 😉
AdventureRick wrote:
Sounds like we're all family. 😉
Monogamy, that's when you pretend to only think about sex with one person forever. Yes, we are all family.
In our case, the male half is polyamorous and is in two long-term committed relationships. The female half has always considered herself monogamous, but has been cautiously exploring non-monogamy. As a couple, we respect each other's different needs and revel in our deep-felt love for each other.
Ups and downs of polyamory. If a couple is secure and confident in their relationship together, then swinging can be a lot of fun, and enhance their romance together. If they are not secure and confident, then swinging might hurt the relationship. If one or both of them are capable of falling in love, with someone else, while remaining in love with their existing significant other, then one or both of them are capable of polyamory. Even if they are both secure and confident, in their existing relationship, and their relationship is intensely sexual, and romantic, and they are capable of having those feelings for someone else, without that jeopardizing their relationship, it doesn't mean it will happen for both of them, or either one of them. What if a polyamorous man or woman, is in love with two people who don't much care for each other? How will it change the time dynamic? There is a lot to consider. Now if a couple in love, falls in love, at the same time with someone, and that someone, feels the same way toward them, then it all ends up wonderful. Seems like the more people involved the more complicated that might become. Romantically engaged blissful threesomes, perhaps might me easier to discover. The more people you try and ad the more complicated it might become. Well anything is possible. Good better and best are subject to whoever is having the experience.