So we are very new to the LS, and getting together for the first time with other couples this week. What advice would you give us? What do you wish you would have known that first time?
Thanks!
Thanks!
Take your time. Make sure that both of you are comfortable. Have a code word that you both agreed on. The code word is a word that means we are done. Both of you need to respect the wishes of the other. Don't take one for the team.
Have fun with it and make sure you have reconnection sex when you get home.
The reconnection sex is the best. Talk about what turned each other on.
Just be yourself and don't rush in. It will happen. Everyone is in this for a good time
Have fun with it and make sure you have reconnection sex when you get home.
The reconnection sex is the best. Talk about what turned each other on.
Just be yourself and don't rush in. It will happen. Everyone is in this for a good time
Thanks rdpfun! Good advice.
Our first event the Mrs didn't see why it was important to talk about boundaries, the do's and don't...until after going to the party and it hit her. We didn't stay for the whole event and ended up driving to a Village Inn and talking for a long time about our boundaries.
And what RDfun said.
And what RDfun said.
100% agree with above and as a newish couple we also found you absolutely need to know it is ok to say no. Just because you are at a party or even at an intimate setting (just you and the other couple or person), does not mean you have to go forward with either playing or a sex act. A hand signal to each other while holding hands is very effective to avoid the awkward, "Do you want to play hunny?" No one wants to disappoint or feel pressure.
Be honest with the other couple or single, let them know your boundaries, if you aren't into them tell them. Being up front and honest will save many a headaches for all involved. And if they can't take rejection then you just dodged a hugh bullet.
Remember you are here to fulfill your fantasy not theirs, if they want to play along and enjoy your fun great, if not someone else will.
You can always say no thank you and or we are done.Dont let them push you farther then you want to go. In time you could likely have no boundaries or very little.So hook back up with them then, dont give in to the moument.
Just our .02
You can always say no thank you and or we are done.Dont let them push you farther then you want to go. In time you could likely have no boundaries or very little.So hook back up with them then, dont give in to the moument.
Just our .02
KRAZYGIRL wrote:
Remember you are here to fulfill your fantasy not theirs, if they want to play along and enjoy your fun great, if not someone else will.
You can always say no thank you and or we are done.Dont let them push you farther then you want to go. In time you could likely have no boundaries or very little.So hook back up with them then, dont give in to the moument.
Just our .02
Do when are we going too.. you know...?😂
If you have boundaries (and you should) be clear as to what they are with each other and your new friends.
Further, assume they have boundaries they haven't told you about and then make sure you ask for permission (just because you had permission a minute/hour/day ago doesn't mean you still do). Is it okay if I touch you? Is it okay if I kiss you? Can I do ___? Would you do this for me? Would you do this for my spouse?
Lots of talking, asking and telling will make for a great experience - even if you don't play around.
Lastly - saying or hearing "NO" is not a rejection, It just means no thank you.
Further, assume they have boundaries they haven't told you about and then make sure you ask for permission (just because you had permission a minute/hour/day ago doesn't mean you still do). Is it okay if I touch you? Is it okay if I kiss you? Can I do ___? Would you do this for me? Would you do this for my spouse?
Lots of talking, asking and telling will make for a great experience - even if you don't play around.
Lastly - saying or hearing "NO" is not a rejection, It just means no thank you.
This is all great advice! A lot of things i didnt think about. And damn you are all sexy!!! If any of you are looking for more friends send us a message 😉
Keep the advice coming!
Keep the advice coming!
When we first started talking about all of this the wife was nervous and unsure, so I talked her through a lot of senerios and asked her to explain how that would make her feel,make her truly think about a girl touching her or if the husband seductively touches you ehile the wife is involved with you.A little bit more each time, made her a bit relaxed when one of those things happened. She had already thought it through and was ready for it.
Might settle your nerves if thats what you need. Have fun with it. Hope things work out for you.
Playinw3, agree 100%
Might settle your nerves if thats what you need. Have fun with it. Hope things work out for you.
Playinw3, agree 100%
Don't completely rule out single males. Some of them are decent guys, and some even have a hot female who might like to play with couples.
Thats great advice Krazygirl & bjoandc! Thanks 😉
Here is a post I put up awhile ago. It gives my 2 cents and has some good replies. Not sure the link will work. https://m.swingular.com/forum/post/17391
Most of these suggestions are right on the mark. We would add these suggestions, trust your partner. If you can't have complete trust then you probably create drama which no one wants. Our other suggestion never take anything to seriously no matter what happens, its just not worth it. We see people all the time ranting and raving about their difficulties in navigating their adventures in the life style. Just have fun and enjoy whatever does or does not happen. Try and achieve compersion in you swinging experiences and things should go pretty smooth. Good luck and happy swinging.