A while ago we purchased wrist bands of color for what we were into and looking for...is this still a thing? And if not is there a way letting others know you are in the lIfestyle ? We go out regularly, have been in this long enough to know a fellow player but are also hesitant to say anything outside of a organized party ..is this acceptable? ..thanks for any input
We've found that the best way to ID other swingers is to walk up and grab them by the crotch. It's a known fact that people who swap spouses have a crotch temperature almost 10 degrees higher than the average person.
Your chances of correctly identifying a lifestyler by a black ring on the right hand is about the same as it is identifying a "hotwife" because she's wearing an ankle bracelet. Both are mostly urban legends. Trust me, people have been trying almost since day one to figure out a way to find other swingers out and about in the real world. Some have used the yin and yang symbol, some have used an apple with a bite taken out of it. The cold hard truth is that most swingers really don't want vanillas to know they're swingers and thus, wouldn't wear something that would easily "out" them in public as swingers. Don't you think, in this day of instantaneous communication and social media that if there was any kind of universally recognized symbol for swingers that it wouldn't soon become knowledge in the vanilla world? If you really want others to know you're a swinger just wear a t-shirt that spells it out. (Not trying to harsh your buzz MATTANDLIZ.)
Your chances of correctly identifying a lifestyler by a black ring on the right hand is about the same as it is identifying a "hotwife" because she's wearing an ankle bracelet. Both are mostly urban legends. Trust me, people have been trying almost since day one to figure out a way to find other swingers out and about in the real world. Some have used the yin and yang symbol, some have used an apple with a bite taken out of it. The cold hard truth is that most swingers really don't want vanillas to know they're swingers and thus, wouldn't wear something that would easily "out" them in public as swingers. Don't you think, in this day of instantaneous communication and social media that if there was any kind of universally recognized symbol for swingers that it wouldn't soon become knowledge in the vanilla world? If you really want others to know you're a swinger just wear a t-shirt that spells it out. (Not trying to harsh your buzz MATTANDLIZ.)
Thanks for the tip Mattandlizforfun! its worth a try and if nothing comes of it whats the harm in a black ring...I am black addict anyway, the women in black lol 
I am not concerned about vanilla's knowing my status or what I do in the bedroom, we are way past that we just don't want to disrespect other people in anyway.
I am not concerned about vanilla's knowing my status or what I do in the bedroom, we are way past that we just don't want to disrespect other people in anyway. MATTANDLIZFORFUN wrote:
We wear a black ring on our right hand ring finger. I know alot of people on here say they only wear them at parties and events, but we think that kinda defeats the purpose, so we wear ours all the time. The only time we've ever spotted anyone else doing the same though was at parties, however we have had other lifestylers notice ours and mention them to us with a wink, wink, nudge, nudge out in the "real world."
We were at Leatherheads two Fridays ago, and I'm almost positive that we saw two different swinger groups. But like you said, we didn't want to disrespect anyone by asking them if they liked to fuck other people's spouses.
SHENANIGANIZER wrote:
We were at Leatherheads two Fridays ago, and I'm almost positive that we saw two different swinger groups. But like you said, we didn't want to disrespect anyone by asking them if they liked to fuck other people's spouses.
To be fair, there are LOTS of people who like to fuck other people's spouses who aren't swingers.
And not to belabor the point but I think the odds of identifying fellow swingers (outside of a lifestyle party) based on what jewelry they're wearing is only slightly higher than asking random strangers on the street if they work at Costco.
I have always wanted to ask some "Hot Looking Woman,Or Man, Hey there do you work at Costco"
I have a coworker that wears a black wedding band on each hand...I've been tempted to ask him...but he doesn't look like the kind of guy that has a second job at Costco.
SHENANIGANIZER wrote:
I have a coworker that wears a black wedding band on each hand...I've been tempted to ask him...but he doesn't look like the kind of guy that has a second job at Costco.
Look for the telltale signs of cheap pizza sauce stains on his shirt, or alternatively an inordinately large amount of toilet paper in the back seat of his car. Both sure signs of a Costco employee...or someone who REALLY likes a good bargain.
We wear our black rings on our right hand all the time even if we aren’t at parties 
Ours kinda stands out due to the fact we aren’t married lol
Ours kinda stands out due to the fact we aren’t married lolCHANE_N_VANCE wrote:
We wear our black rings on our right hand all the time even if we aren’t at parties
Could just mean that you are Europeans too...but that doesn't mean Europeans don't work at Costco either... 😊
Have we learned NOTHING?!!? Pussy grabbing is NOT sexual assault. It's just a little innocent locker room fun and hijinks. Nothing that doesn't go on every single day in every middle school and high school across this great land. And I've never been convicted of sexual assault...so THERE! Although I do know a guy who whipped it out in an Applebees to show a hot couple in the adjoining booth his black cock ring (another sure fire way to ID a fellow swinger, bee tee dub). He got off (no, not THAT way you pervs) with time served and 500 hours of community service...oddly enough picking up trash and stray carts in a Costco parking lot.