Swingers Forum - upfront

The way I see it, were not just talking about birth date...but physicality.... and biology.

I'm not anti- little blue pill, but I prefer to not Start feeing more Ike a nurse, monitoring respiration and panicking about every grimace. But truly, that's not an age thing. I've had back problems since fifth grade, but can talk arthritis like a granny... my first viagra user was 35 but overcoming a cancer surgery and pretty terrified.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is, I don't think an arbitrary number exists, but some symptoms, needs or concerns empower a conversation about it... perhaps changing positions will stop him sounding like I'm murdering him or even taking a few extra water breaks. As for my taste in women, I find myself into the bold brassy type and find that a bit of age increases that tendency to throw caution to the wind and live a little bit harder...

On the other hand, I'm not fond of my memories of self-esteem gone awry in my twenties, so I am a bit less likely to enjoy being a part of that age group's self-discovery. When dating a couple, this age range is a bit unnerving because some seem so desperate to prove altruistic motives when they're obviously enjoying the opportunity to be selfish. (It's normal) Once again, there are examples of people at any age either winning or losing at this game.

Irs interesting that I feel like I'm being awfully judgmental just typing this.

Too old is when either party regrets the interaction due to the age of their partner. You're only as old as you feel but age is also very much in the eye of the beholder. Having said that, as long as you don't expect very many hot sexy young twenty-year-olds to want to bang someone old enough to be their father or maybe even grandfather then you're probably okay. One caveat, as a single guy in your age group the odds might be stacked against you a little bit. Don't get me wrong, you can absolutely still be a swinger and indeed there are some women who prefer older guys or at least guys with more "life experience". But it's also easier to get lost in the herd, so to speak, when you're effectively competing for pussy with a LOT of guys younger than yourself. Just be yourself and try not to get caught up in the unfortunate entitlement mentality that many single guys (and even some married guys) get sucked into when they join the lifestyle. Women in the lifestyle aren't sex-crazed nymphos who will fuck anyone just because they're a swinger too. In fact, many single guys claim it's far easier to get laid in the vanilla world than in the swinging world. Good luck and may the Force be with you.

If two or more adults are attracted to each other, and find each other sexually exciting, and enjoy having sex together, then game on! In recent years, I have had sex on occasion with women half my age and with women my age, and with women older than I am. The same can be said for Mrs. Delicious. Neither one of us have had sex with anyone we did not find attractive and we have not had sex with anyone that did not find us attractive. Time and aging will change the attraction variables, in a number of ways, and will open some doors, and will close some doors as to who we find attractive, and who will find us attractive. Those changes are perhaps a bit subtle, and don't happen all at once, as does aging itself.

So far we have been lucky. I personally don't need or have a prescription for anything other than eye glasses for my stigmatism, and I have worn glasses since I was a child. My doctor tells me to just wear sunscreen, because looking at my lab results I am healthier than many of the men he sees in their 30s. Do I feel the effects of aging? Sure I do it's been years since I could stuff a basketball two handed. Well actually stuffing a basketball now evades me all together. I have some aches and pains in my joints due to years of wear and tear from living an active life. I shave my head because it looks better than my bald spots. Is it going to get worse? Yeah aging usually compromises the body a little bit more with each passing year. Life is a wonderful gift, and way too short. Just live it and love it!