I thought this info might be somewhat helpful to some of the new kids. 
Here are some guidelines we like to use, so If I say things like "never" or "always" this applies to how we do things. We need a bit of discretion and like to maintain some anonymity until we get to know someone. If you don't, obviously some of this won't apply to you. This is our opinion, and nothing else, but has worked well for us. Most is common sense.
1)Don't put face pics on your public page-EVER. Don't share face pics until you know the couple at least a little and feel certain of their intentions. If people are pushy and demand pics, pass them by.
2)Don't put personal info on your public page, info that someone could identify you with, including tattoos, pics of your house or (yes we have seen it) your kids. Doh!
3)Only share face pics and real names once you are comfortable with your contact and know they are legit and not a pic collector or your neighbor trying to play a private dick.
4)Create a new, fake email using a fake name and birth date
5) Use a service like Kik or Google Voice to communicate off-site and use the fake email you setup.
6) Trust your instinct. If someone smells fishy, either literally or figuratively, bail. There are a lot of people out there and you can always meet someone else. Chances are if someone is giving you the "creep vibe" , they are probably are going to be a headache for you.
7)Everyone has drama at some point. Try to save your own for when you are alone, but also give people a little leeway if they have a spat. Not saying if they are in a brawl you should stick around, but let's just say sometimes second chances are good to give. *See number 6 above
8)Communication: The most important thing of all to keep you and the spouse happy. No matter where you are, no matter what situation you are in, no matter how embarrassing, you have to communicate and make sure you aren't doing anything you don't want or your spouse is compromising what they are doing. If you don't like the discomfort of stopping mid lick to say you want to go home, use a code word or a safe word. "Honey, I'm thirsty. Do you want some ice water," can mean, let's get the hell out of dodge. We used to use Rainbow, but somehow it was hard to incorporate into a conversation.
9)Don't drink too much. We have had a hard time sticking to this rule and it definitely has been the cause of some of our turmoil. A little is a social lubricant, a lot can be a train wreck.
10)Be aware of your surroundings. People may try to secretly record you, take pics without permission or slip you drugs, so just be aware. Similar to point number 6. Even if it is unjustified paranoia, it is best to cancel, regroup and then have some good introspection on your next move.
Bonus: We have found that with single females it can sometimes really be a fat dude in his mama's basement collecting pics. So, our friend showed us how you can reverse search a picture on google. We thought we had us a beautiful, single unicorn until we googled her pics and realized it was a porn star from California. Once we confronted her, she disappeared, much like the magical, mystical creature we were hoping she was.
I'm sure others have some good advice as well. Hope it helps a bit...
Mr. SRO
Here are some guidelines we like to use, so If I say things like "never" or "always" this applies to how we do things. We need a bit of discretion and like to maintain some anonymity until we get to know someone. If you don't, obviously some of this won't apply to you. This is our opinion, and nothing else, but has worked well for us. Most is common sense.
1)Don't put face pics on your public page-EVER. Don't share face pics until you know the couple at least a little and feel certain of their intentions. If people are pushy and demand pics, pass them by.
2)Don't put personal info on your public page, info that someone could identify you with, including tattoos, pics of your house or (yes we have seen it) your kids. Doh!
3)Only share face pics and real names once you are comfortable with your contact and know they are legit and not a pic collector or your neighbor trying to play a private dick.
4)Create a new, fake email using a fake name and birth date
5) Use a service like Kik or Google Voice to communicate off-site and use the fake email you setup.
6) Trust your instinct. If someone smells fishy, either literally or figuratively, bail. There are a lot of people out there and you can always meet someone else. Chances are if someone is giving you the "creep vibe" , they are probably are going to be a headache for you.
7)Everyone has drama at some point. Try to save your own for when you are alone, but also give people a little leeway if they have a spat. Not saying if they are in a brawl you should stick around, but let's just say sometimes second chances are good to give. *See number 6 above
8)Communication: The most important thing of all to keep you and the spouse happy. No matter where you are, no matter what situation you are in, no matter how embarrassing, you have to communicate and make sure you aren't doing anything you don't want or your spouse is compromising what they are doing. If you don't like the discomfort of stopping mid lick to say you want to go home, use a code word or a safe word. "Honey, I'm thirsty. Do you want some ice water," can mean, let's get the hell out of dodge. We used to use Rainbow, but somehow it was hard to incorporate into a conversation.
9)Don't drink too much. We have had a hard time sticking to this rule and it definitely has been the cause of some of our turmoil. A little is a social lubricant, a lot can be a train wreck.
10)Be aware of your surroundings. People may try to secretly record you, take pics without permission or slip you drugs, so just be aware. Similar to point number 6. Even if it is unjustified paranoia, it is best to cancel, regroup and then have some good introspection on your next move.
Bonus: We have found that with single females it can sometimes really be a fat dude in his mama's basement collecting pics. So, our friend showed us how you can reverse search a picture on google. We thought we had us a beautiful, single unicorn until we googled her pics and realized it was a porn star from California. Once we confronted her, she disappeared, much like the magical, mystical creature we were hoping she was.
I'm sure others have some good advice as well. Hope it helps a bit...
Mr. SRO
We agree, great post. We would like to add patience is key single men will say almost anything to get into your panties
ILLUSTRATOR wrote:
Great advice, SameRoom! There's little that could be added. And the emphasis on Trusting your Instincts is DEAD ON! Don't compromise.
I would also emphasize what you said about staying because your spouse is having a great time. Don't do it. You may regret your decision to stay.
Thanks for the post, SameRoom!
I couldn't agree more. Staying when your spouse is having a good time and you are miserable is a bad idea and breeds resentment. As a couple, unless you have a specific agreement that is akin to either cuckolding, or one spouse playing by themselves, it must be a two way street. Nobody should be asked to "take one for the team" no matter how hot the other person is. If you aren't both enjoying yourselves, what's the point? The best of all situations is to meet couples that are both awesome! Preferably in cool, hip atmosphere, where you can talk for hours.
POSSIBITITYS wrote:
We agree, great post. We would like to add patience is key single men will say almost anything to get into your panties
More concisely, men will say anything to get into panties.
I'd add that as well as Reverse Google Image, right-click is your friend. If you have to download a pic to see anything in the Properties when you right click on it, do so; can save you all kinds of headache from liars; for example, 'Here is a body pic I took last week!', but you see from the Properties it's a file date or photo taken 10 years ago.
CHEFFETTE wrote:POSSIBITITYS wrote:
We agree, great post. We would like to add patience is key single men will say almost anything to get into your panties
More concisely, men will say anything to get into panties.
I'd add that as well as Reverse Google Image, right-click is your friend. If you have to download a pic to see anything in the Properties when you right click on it, do so; can save you all kinds of headache from liars; for example, 'Here is a body pic I took last week!', but you see from the Properties it's a file date or photo taken 10 years ago.
Very,very true.... Here's a few others that save some agrivation. "My wife is out running errands, she'll be home to join us later" = wife doesn't know, or there is no wife. Or "My wife is shy, but she is totally into girls...."= she told me about kissing another girl when she was in college, I want her to be with another woman so badly, but she has no idea what I set up with you guys for tonight and will be repulsed by female to female contact. Or "The wife or husband gave me a hall pass, but let's meet in the next city over."= I am married and having an affair.
SAMEROOMONLY wrote:
Damn...publish this shit...it's good!
I would like to second #6. A fisherman once told me, "if you walk into a restaurant and smell fish, don't order the fish." As any single guy can tell you "the flyby" is a very handy skill
To have. You go down and kiss the belly button, the inner thighs etc. you take a big whiff and it's all clear, stay on target like you were about to release photons into the death star exhaust port. If not, kiss the belly button again and work your way back up. Most women know that if it smells fishy, there's a problem. So it's not that common. But occasionally it gets a little fishy with some. Smelling fishy means you have a bacterial infection. Usually "vaginosis". So a visit to a doctor and some antibiotics is a good move. It is contagious as it is a bacterial infection. There is no sense in just living with it. It's such an easy fix. Once again, vaginas should not be fishy. This is 25 years of medical experience talking. It doesn't mean they are dirty or diseased, they just need antibiotics and all will be well. Happy cunnilingus everyone!
To have. You go down and kiss the belly button, the inner thighs etc. you take a big whiff and it's all clear, stay on target like you were about to release photons into the death star exhaust port. If not, kiss the belly button again and work your way back up. Most women know that if it smells fishy, there's a problem. So it's not that common. But occasionally it gets a little fishy with some. Smelling fishy means you have a bacterial infection. Usually "vaginosis". So a visit to a doctor and some antibiotics is a good move. It is contagious as it is a bacterial infection. There is no sense in just living with it. It's such an easy fix. Once again, vaginas should not be fishy. This is 25 years of medical experience talking. It doesn't mean they are dirty or diseased, they just need antibiotics and all will be well. Happy cunnilingus everyone!
If you're a n0Ob to Swinging and you've come here b/c you are partnered and want more or different sex than you get from your partner but cannot see a sex worker for whatever reason and choose not to communicate your partner about your issues in order to solve them, you will give yourself away. You will follow a pattern those used to dealing w/ liars and cheats see all the time and your ass will get caught.
And once your ass is caught your credibility is gone. No protestations of HALL PASS I SWEAR and the like will be believed. If you pretend to be something you are not, prepare to look foolish as it's far more likely than you getting strange. Swinging is not cheating, it's practically the opposite. And if a lying, cheating slug can't separate those ideas then no one from here will want to fuck them. You're better off being out of shape and bald, male or female, and honest about it, than being known as a liar.
And once your ass is caught your credibility is gone. No protestations of HALL PASS I SWEAR and the like will be believed. If you pretend to be something you are not, prepare to look foolish as it's far more likely than you getting strange. Swinging is not cheating, it's practically the opposite. And if a lying, cheating slug can't separate those ideas then no one from here will want to fuck them. You're better off being out of shape and bald, male or female, and honest about it, than being known as a liar.
Plus Keep records of who you fuck! AKA play in this community Since safe sex is long life.
"According to the Center for HIV Law and Policy, from 2008 to June of this year 2015 at least 226 people with HIV have been prosecuted and arrested for exposing people to the virus, allegedly without their partners knowing their diagnosis.
State laws vary dramatically in terms of their requirements, explains Sarah Warbelow, legal director at the Human Rights Campaign. They range from having sex with someone to intentionally infect them, to having sex with someone without telling them a diagnosis, even while wearing a condom and using other protection, and even in cases where a partner does not become infected. Some laws include other sexually transmitted infections, or any communicable disease, though laws against HIV are the most aggressive."
Poet
"According to the Center for HIV Law and Policy, from 2008 to June of this year 2015 at least 226 people with HIV have been prosecuted and arrested for exposing people to the virus, allegedly without their partners knowing their diagnosis.
State laws vary dramatically in terms of their requirements, explains Sarah Warbelow, legal director at the Human Rights Campaign. They range from having sex with someone to intentionally infect them, to having sex with someone without telling them a diagnosis, even while wearing a condom and using other protection, and even in cases where a partner does not become infected. Some laws include other sexually transmitted infections, or any communicable disease, though laws against HIV are the most aggressive."
Poet
This is going to sound weird coming from a single male, but
I would add....
Keep ALL communication on-site until you have met face to face in a public setting and have established comfortable friend-zones first.
I would add....
Keep ALL communication on-site until you have met face to face in a public setting and have established comfortable friend-zones first.
I would like to add that no matter how comfortable people make you feel and if you feel that you have developed "trust"....never....never let anyone mix your drinks. There are people who will earn your trust and be so seemingly laid back and "okay" with anything you're willing to do. But just remember...people aren't always who they claim to be or who they portray their personalities to be. Stay in control of your surroundings as much as possible. Just when you think you are in control of how fast, or how far you want to go....just remember that YOU need to control your surroundings.
Never ever give them your atm card and pin code and ask them to "just get me a 20 spot at the atm". Never ever go on a family picnick if the family's last name is Manson. Never ever douse yourself in gasoline, hand a potential love a lighter and say "just light me a little for shits and giggles". Never Ever allow a homeless man to give you a prostate exam no matter how convincing he is when he says "I swear I'm a doctor. I took the hypicritical oath" (I know, that sounds way legit, right?). Never ever tell a white woman her butt looks big, they don't take it as a compliment. Never ever put copious amounts of ky jelly all over your pants before a lap dance to help things go "smoother." Never ever say "sure, I'll try a tea bag, is that some sort of new drink" if you are at a fraternity party. Never ever go into an angry protest in the Middle East or North Africa and say "quiet every one QUIET!!!! I am an American so please, show some respect, or we will bomb the shit out of you". Never ever take business advice from someone who has gone bankrupt 3 times. Or vote for him for president to fix the economy and "Make America great again. Never ever tell your kids "you know, you are my favorite child hands down. Just don't tell your brothers and sisters". Never ever pick a fight with 5-6 police officers when you are in handcuffs. Never ever fall in love with anything or anyone inflatable. Never ever have David O Russell and Lily Tomlin over for Christmas, no matter how much you heart Huckabees. And finally, NEVER ever let them see you sweat. For some reason it makes Norwegians fill with furry.
ERASEDPANTS wrote:
Never ever give them your atm card and pin code and ask them to "just get me a 20 spot at the atm". Never ever go on a family picnick if the family's last name is Manson. Never ever douse yourself in gasoline, hand a potential love a lighter and say "just light me a little for shits and giggles". Never Ever allow a homeless man to give you a prostate exam no matter how convincing he is when he says "I swear I'm a doctor. I took the hypicritical oath" (I know, that sounds way legit, right?). Never ever tell a white woman her butt looks big, they don't take it as a compliment. Never ever put copious amounts of ky jelly all over your pants before a lap dance to help things go "smoother." Never ever say "sure, I'll try a tea bag, is that some sort of new drink" if you are at a fraternity party. Never ever go into an angry protest in the Middle East or North Africa and say "quiet every one QUIET!!!! I am an American so please, show some respect, or we will bomb the shit out of you". Never ever take business advice from someone who has gone bankrupt 3 times. Or vote for him for president to fix the economy and "Make America great again. Never ever tell your kids "you know, you are my favorite child hands down. Just don't tell your brothers and sisters". Never ever pick a fight with 5-6 police officers when you are in handcuffs. Never ever fall in love with anything or anyone inflatable. Never ever have David O Russell and Lily Tomlin over for Christmas, no matter how much you heart Huckabees. And finally, NEVER ever let them see you sweat. For some reason it makes Norwegians fill with furry.
Not sure I see a horrific outcome (other than it being more challenging for your laundry detergent) to the K-Y Jelly/lap dance scenario. And how, exactly, does sweat turn Norwegians into furries?
Furry event?!!? This was taken at a high school mascot open audition. Go Blanding Blue Bunnies!
Good stuff mr sameroom!
If singleness can turn single women in "Unicorns", then sweat can turn Norwegians into "Furries". Actually "Nick Fury" from The Avengers', was originally "Nick Furry". Due to a typo, Nick is now a gruff, angry leader with an eye patch instead of the loveable leader who dressed as a "shewolf" to fight the forces of evil, as he was suppose to be.
ERASEDPANTS wrote:
If singleness can turn single women in "Unicorns", then sweat can turn Norwegians into "Furries". Actually "Nick Fury" from The Avengers', was originally "Nick Furry". Due to a typo, Nick is now a gruff, angry leader with an eye patch instead of the loveable leader who dressed as a "shewolf" to fight the forces of evil, as he was suppose to be.
Hmmmm sounds like a bit of a stretch to me. So what do you get if you mix oatmeal with a Herzegovinian? Prince Albert in a can? You swingers, aside from being filthy disgusting perverts, are weird. I'm hoping President Trump makes you all register with the Department of Agriculture and makes you all wear easily identifiable black rings and ankle bracelets and takes away all your piercings and spandex hoochie coochie wear.
I said "hoochie coochie wear" not the Official Angel Moroni Signature replica unitard. Jesus, Joseph, and Emma, ILLUSTRATOR! 
SIREROS wrote:
Are they selling the official Moroni unitards at the Deseret Store? I gotta have one ....
Only at Halloween...or during General Conference. But the trumpet is extra. They'll sell you those other unitards any time, if you have the right paperwork...or know the secret password.
Shouldn't I be pissed off or something that all you bastards took my very serious post and destroyed it with furries? Damn you. haha. JK. Your humor is spot on. Anyway, thought of an addition to the list for Noobs (sorry to bring it back to the topic, we can go back to furry people later). This has to do with PICS:
PICS: Post a semi accurate pic of both the male and female. The female half is just as curious what your male looks like as I am about your female half. Sure, most of the time the female half is way hotter (including my wife and I), we all know that, so don't be shy. If all you have is a cleavage shot, my assumption, and probably others, is you are hiding your body. Sure, put your best picture up you took while on that Caribbean getaway when you were all tan and at your most fit physique, but only if it is within 5 or 10 pounds and within a year or 6 months of today's date. Eventually you are going to have to expose your body, either in pics or when you get roofied at a party, so you might as well save yourself some time and not waste anybody else's time by posting fake, outdated, extreme close up (we all know what a nipple looks like, round and Furry (see, I brought if full circle) wait, what? furry?) and your goal is to find people you are attracted to and who are attracted to you. Sure, looks aren't everything, but they are a great place to start.
Last piece of advice. Furries!!
PICS: Post a semi accurate pic of both the male and female. The female half is just as curious what your male looks like as I am about your female half. Sure, most of the time the female half is way hotter (including my wife and I), we all know that, so don't be shy. If all you have is a cleavage shot, my assumption, and probably others, is you are hiding your body. Sure, put your best picture up you took while on that Caribbean getaway when you were all tan and at your most fit physique, but only if it is within 5 or 10 pounds and within a year or 6 months of today's date. Eventually you are going to have to expose your body, either in pics or when you get roofied at a party, so you might as well save yourself some time and not waste anybody else's time by posting fake, outdated, extreme close up (we all know what a nipple looks like, round and Furry (see, I brought if full circle) wait, what? furry?) and your goal is to find people you are attracted to and who are attracted to you. Sure, looks aren't everything, but they are a great place to start.
Last piece of advice. Furries!!
Well we've been thinking on getting better pic's but wasn't sure where but read a profile of a single male who we are highly considering as are pic taker.
Lots of nut jobs out there be very careful. People lost jobs by putting face pics on sites. City,county and government jobs may get you fired. Plus there are plenty of loons to bother you.like neighbor's or co workers who see your pics on a site. Bye RnK
FUNANSUN wrote:
Lots of nut jobs out there be very careful. People lost jobs by putting face pics on sites. City,county and government jobs may get you fired. Plus there are plenty of loons to bother you.like neighbor's or co workers who see your pics on a site. Bye RnK
You ain't just kiddin'!
Can we join this religion? Seems like great 'commandments', we're willing to submit to. Stay safe all!
Sure Utcpl4Play. Please send me 9% of Gross income (see, I'm one-upping the local boys and taking 1% less), a blood sample and a bottle of Basil Hayden. That's it.
Thank you!
Evil you just made my morning wait at the airport that much more tolerable, great sense of humor.
Bored at work today so I thought I would share some thoughts, since I know you have all been waiting for me to say something more. Don't deny it.
I figured I would share some insights for noobs or just anyone else who will connect with our experiences. I already posted the 101 of what I thought was important, so this will be less rules and more insight. We seem to meet a lot of people who are just beginning and they always have the same questions. So....
The first thing to realize is that swingers are just like everyone else, just kinkier. They don't all fuck sheep (some do) or masterbate in public ( I do), but for the most part are just regular citizens who happen to like exciting sexual adventures. For the most part people are not very pushy, and if they are, you can quickly diffuse them just by being direct and telling them where you stand, or lie, or bend over. If they don't, probably a creepy couple who you don't want to see anyway.
Most of the house parties we have been to are fairly mellow. Apart from the nakedness there doesn't seem to be a lot of random acts of sex happening all over the place. So don't be afraid to go to the parties, but ask before you go what the party is like. Nobody will rape you unless you like that sort of thing. We were so nervous during our first party that we sat in the car drinking until some people we knew walked us in. By the end of the night, I was the only one in my underwear. Awkward. Not really.
There isn't a magical solution to meeting people. You have to make contact, talk to them and eventually meet, hopefully in an environment where you have a quick route of escape if needed. We used to invite new couples to our house for a hot tub night but quickly realized if there was no attraction for us, it was often times hard to politely get them to leave. So coffee, drinks something simple is best.
We have met some of our greatest friends in the LS and are sure to meet more. The people tend to be open minded, friendly, educated and fun to be around. So even if you don't intend on playing with someone you might keep the option open for a lasting friendship, though some on the site are definitely NOT looking for that. You can figure that out pretty quickly.
The Sinful parties are a great, no pressure way to meet people. Shout out to J & A (and M, I never forget M). The Orchard parties tend to get a little more rambunctious, but only upstairs, at least at the venue by Brewvies. So it is also a good place to go if you want to just chill, or if you want to be a little more daring and see sex or have sex. We haven't been to as many manor parties, but they are well done and seem casual as well. Don't think we have ever seen any sexual acts and Manor. Habits is definitely turning out to be a swinger's hangout. Saturdays seem to be the biggest turnout for the LS. Can be some creepers there but for the most part is fun and entertaining. Not our favorite but will do in a pinch.
Our name is SameRoomOnly because when we started we were only having sex with each other, in front of others and figured we would never full swap. We learned quickly that rules are easily broken and that it is best to learn to communicate on the spot in any situation. We use hand gestures and do have a few code words if needed, though typically most people are very happy to hear open communication about what others in the situation want. We certainly do. If you don't want that ninth orgasm in a row, just tell me, I will back off. No hard feelings. Well, we have come a long way from SameRoomOnly. And here we are. Maybe a bit smarter, a lot kinkier and have a lot of fun experiences behind and ahead of us. I am raising my imaginary glass of bourbon to all of you we have met and to the good times. Cheers.
I figured I would share some insights for noobs or just anyone else who will connect with our experiences. I already posted the 101 of what I thought was important, so this will be less rules and more insight. We seem to meet a lot of people who are just beginning and they always have the same questions. So....
The first thing to realize is that swingers are just like everyone else, just kinkier. They don't all fuck sheep (some do) or masterbate in public ( I do), but for the most part are just regular citizens who happen to like exciting sexual adventures. For the most part people are not very pushy, and if they are, you can quickly diffuse them just by being direct and telling them where you stand, or lie, or bend over.
If they don't, probably a creepy couple who you don't want to see anyway. Most of the house parties we have been to are fairly mellow. Apart from the nakedness there doesn't seem to be a lot of random acts of sex happening all over the place. So don't be afraid to go to the parties, but ask before you go what the party is like. Nobody will rape you unless you like that sort of thing. We were so nervous during our first party that we sat in the car drinking until some people we knew walked us in. By the end of the night, I was the only one in my underwear. Awkward. Not really.
There isn't a magical solution to meeting people. You have to make contact, talk to them and eventually meet, hopefully in an environment where you have a quick route of escape if needed. We used to invite new couples to our house for a hot tub night but quickly realized if there was no attraction for us, it was often times hard to politely get them to leave. So coffee, drinks something simple is best.
We have met some of our greatest friends in the LS and are sure to meet more. The people tend to be open minded, friendly, educated and fun to be around. So even if you don't intend on playing with someone you might keep the option open for a lasting friendship, though some on the site are definitely NOT looking for that. You can figure that out pretty quickly.
The Sinful parties are a great, no pressure way to meet people. Shout out to J & A (and M, I never forget M).
The Orchard parties tend to get a little more rambunctious, but only upstairs, at least at the venue by Brewvies. So it is also a good place to go if you want to just chill, or if you want to be a little more daring and see sex or have sex. We haven't been to as many manor parties, but they are well done and seem casual as well. Don't think we have ever seen any sexual acts and Manor. Habits is definitely turning out to be a swinger's hangout. Saturdays seem to be the biggest turnout for the LS. Can be some creepers there but for the most part is fun and entertaining. Not our favorite but will do in a pinch. Our name is SameRoomOnly because when we started we were only having sex with each other, in front of others and figured we would never full swap. We learned quickly that rules are easily broken and that it is best to learn to communicate on the spot in any situation. We use hand gestures and do have a few code words if needed, though typically most people are very happy to hear open communication about what others in the situation want. We certainly do. If you don't want that ninth orgasm in a row, just tell me, I will back off. No hard feelings. Well, we have come a long way from SameRoomOnly. And here we are. Maybe a bit smarter, a lot kinkier and have a lot of fun experiences behind and ahead of us. I am raising my imaginary glass of bourbon to all of you we have met and to the good times. Cheers.
Bored at work today so I thought I would share some thoughts, since I know you have all been waiting for me to say something more. Don't deny it.
I figured I would share some insights for noobs or just anyone else who will connect with our experiences. I already posted the 101 of what I thought was important, so this will be less rules and more insight. We seem to meet a lot of people who are just beginning and they always have the same questions. So....
The first thing to realize is that swingers are just like everyone else, just kinkier. They don't all fuck sheep (some do) or masterbate in public ( I do), but for the most part are just regular citizens who happen to like exciting sexual adventures. For the most part people are not very pushy, and if they are, you can quickly diffuse them just by being direct and telling them where you stand, or lie, or bend over. If they don't, probably a creepy couple who you don't want to see anyway.
Most of the house parties we have been to are fairly mellow. Apart from the nakedness there doesn't seem to be a lot of random acts of sex happening all over the place. So don't be afraid to go to the parties, but ask before you go what the party is like. Nobody will rape you unless you like that sort of thing. We were so nervous during our first party that we sat in the car drinking until some people we knew walked us in. By the end of the night, I was the only one in my underwear. Awkward. Not really.
There isn't a magical solution to meeting people. You have to make contact, talk to them and eventually meet, hopefully in an environment where you have a quick route of escape if needed. We used to invite new couples to our house for a hot tub night but quickly realized if there was no attraction for us, it was often times hard to politely get them to leave. So coffee, drinks something simple is best.
We have met some of our greatest friends in the LS and are sure to meet more. The people tend to be open minded, friendly, educated and fun to be around. So even if you don't intend on playing with someone you might keep the option open for a lasting friendship, though some on the site are definitely NOT looking for that. You can figure that out pretty quickly.
The Sinful parties are a great, no pressure way to meet people. Shout out to J & A (and M, I never forget M). The Orchard parties tend to get a little more rambunctious, but only upstairs, at least at the venue by Brewvies. So it is also a good place to go if you want to just chill, or if you want to be a little more daring and see sex or have sex. We haven't been to as many manor parties, but they are well done and seem casual as well. Don't think we have ever seen any sexual acts at Manor. Habits is definitely turning out to be a swinger's hangout. Saturdays seem to be the biggest turnout for the LS. Can be some creepers there but for the most part it is fun and entertaining. Not our favorite but will do in a pinch.
Our name is SameRoomOnly because when we started we were only having sex with each other, in front of others and figured we would never full swap. We learned quickly that rules are easily broken and that it is best to learn to communicate on the spot in any situation. We use hand gestures and do have a few code words if needed, though typically most people are very happy to hear open communication about what others in the situation want. We certainly do. If you don't want that ninth orgasm in a row, just tell me, I will back off. No hard feelings.
Well, we have come a long way from SameRoomOnly. And here we are. Maybe a bit smarter, a lot kinkier and have a lot of fun experiences behind and ahead of us. I am raising my imaginary glass of bourbon to all of you we have met and to the good times. Cheers.
I figured I would share some insights for noobs or just anyone else who will connect with our experiences. I already posted the 101 of what I thought was important, so this will be less rules and more insight. We seem to meet a lot of people who are just beginning and they always have the same questions. So....
The first thing to realize is that swingers are just like everyone else, just kinkier. They don't all fuck sheep (some do) or masterbate in public ( I do), but for the most part are just regular citizens who happen to like exciting sexual adventures. For the most part people are not very pushy, and if they are, you can quickly diffuse them just by being direct and telling them where you stand, or lie, or bend over.
If they don't, probably a creepy couple who you don't want to see anyway. Most of the house parties we have been to are fairly mellow. Apart from the nakedness there doesn't seem to be a lot of random acts of sex happening all over the place. So don't be afraid to go to the parties, but ask before you go what the party is like. Nobody will rape you unless you like that sort of thing. We were so nervous during our first party that we sat in the car drinking until some people we knew walked us in. By the end of the night, I was the only one in my underwear. Awkward. Not really.
There isn't a magical solution to meeting people. You have to make contact, talk to them and eventually meet, hopefully in an environment where you have a quick route of escape if needed. We used to invite new couples to our house for a hot tub night but quickly realized if there was no attraction for us, it was often times hard to politely get them to leave. So coffee, drinks something simple is best.
We have met some of our greatest friends in the LS and are sure to meet more. The people tend to be open minded, friendly, educated and fun to be around. So even if you don't intend on playing with someone you might keep the option open for a lasting friendship, though some on the site are definitely NOT looking for that. You can figure that out pretty quickly.
The Sinful parties are a great, no pressure way to meet people. Shout out to J & A (and M, I never forget M).
The Orchard parties tend to get a little more rambunctious, but only upstairs, at least at the venue by Brewvies. So it is also a good place to go if you want to just chill, or if you want to be a little more daring and see sex or have sex. We haven't been to as many manor parties, but they are well done and seem casual as well. Don't think we have ever seen any sexual acts at Manor. Habits is definitely turning out to be a swinger's hangout. Saturdays seem to be the biggest turnout for the LS. Can be some creepers there but for the most part it is fun and entertaining. Not our favorite but will do in a pinch. Our name is SameRoomOnly because when we started we were only having sex with each other, in front of others and figured we would never full swap. We learned quickly that rules are easily broken and that it is best to learn to communicate on the spot in any situation. We use hand gestures and do have a few code words if needed, though typically most people are very happy to hear open communication about what others in the situation want. We certainly do. If you don't want that ninth orgasm in a row, just tell me, I will back off. No hard feelings.
Well, we have come a long way from SameRoomOnly. And here we are. Maybe a bit smarter, a lot kinkier and have a lot of fun experiences behind and ahead of us. I am raising my imaginary glass of bourbon to all of you we have met and to the good times. Cheers.
Very interesting post to read.
Obviously we disagree about the face pics ... we aren't poloticians running for office trying to hide skeletons ... like omg someone might recognize you ... and? Lol
DISCREETCPL wrote:
Sameroom,
We are new to LS and are still a work in progress with profile, pics, communication, and the decision to get out and meet new peeps. Thank you very much for posting the info and tips. One thing that makes us comfortable is when others post reviews about others that we are looking up. It would be great for the Swingular LS community to expose those flakes and creepsters for who they are in advance for the noobs. It would be great to contact someone like yourself to "pricecheck" a couple, or person before waisting everyone's time. Or even worst, having a night filled of drama. We are a UT County couple and would love to weed out the bullshit way before we step out to play. Maybe we can create a never ending thread and list all the good experience couples and or singles as to help those noobs in search of a safe and drama free situation????????????? If a couple or single doesn't make the list then, we can assume no one has spent time with yet or there were some other reason. Let me know what you think???
The only problem is that in swinging no matter how much you vet a person or couple there is always, unfortunately, the potential for drama...or worse. When you mix potent emotions with often late hours and a little alcohol, even a normally cool, rational, fun person can turn into swingerzilla. I like the concept of your idea but putting it into practice would be, imho, hit and miss at best.
We knew a couple a number of years ago that were REALLY cool, fun people...very mellow. One night before a party they got into an argument over some silly thing and carried that negative energy with them to the party. The alcohol started flowing and the guy had a couple of drinks too many and flipped out (these were seasoned swingers btw, not noobs) when his wife started kissing and groping another guy at the party.
DISCREETCPL wrote:
Okay doctor evil, who is the profile do'er? I am sure our profiles do not match up at all but we must meet sometime.
You can usually catch us selling blood at the plasma center every Tuesday morning or alternatively doing handys for 5 bucks a pop in the restrooms at finer truck stops in the Salt Lake area.
I have always thought that Handys was a Mountain Range in Chille? Must be My mistake I guess!
MYRNASTWINS wrote:
I have always thought that Handys was a Mountain Range in Chille? Must be My mistake I guess!
If we're going to split topographical hairs I'm fucking off.
RUNNINWILD wrote:
who the hell says noobs need info, fuck as you want....geez
Many male noobs ask for info; they don't simply put up the barest minimum of a profile, no pictures whatsoever and a poorly written description of what they hope for like others who've recently joined. This shows they have actual interest in participating rather than dismissing any concerns brought up b/c they can't see how it affects them right that second.
I don't get why you even bothered to post while you were on here looking for new nudes, Mr Runninwild. You sure went out of your way to dismiss a thing many people here take seriously.
Here's a great tip for male noobs. Do NOT point your crotch rocket at anyone's face! You could put an eye out! Happy 4th, everyone!
TWONAUGHTYONES wrote:CHEFFETTE wrote:
[quote=POSSIBITITYS]We agree, great post. We would like to add patience is key single men will say almost anything to get into your panties
More concisely, men will say anything to get into panties.
I'd add that as well as Reverse Google Image, right-click is your friend. If you have to download a pic to see anything in the Properties when you right click on it, do so; can save you all kinds of headache from liars; for example, 'Here is a body pic I took last week!', but you see from the Properties it's a file date or photo taken 10 years ago.
For those women that feel "men" will say anything to get into panties", I feel sorry that you've had bad experiences that give you that impression. I also feel bad that you seem to need to generalize all men and put them into the same bucket. SO NOT TRUE, or fair, but hey you're entitled to your opinion.[/quote]
Aw, fuck, that's so laudable of you to entitle me to my own opinion, how big of you. Wow. What a generous gift from you, me allowed to have my opinion in my little girl brain. I'll treasure your permission, I really will.
Thanks for calling me a liar for sharing my experience; no thanks for downplaying my memories as impressions, though, that's a shit thing to do.
You're a liar too for saying you feel sorry or bad - what you feel is umbrage or personal offense b/c you've gotten into panties you felt you were entitled to get into (no lies necessary for someone that awesome!) and my words somehow minimize your experience in much the same way you desperately seek to minimize mine w/ passive aggressive bullshit. 'Little lady, it's not that the opinion you hold that's different from mine is WRONG, it's that your understanding of what it's based on is wrong!'
Hey, how about if I tell you you're entitled to your opinion, you have MY permission? All better now?
Alright, children. Enough bickering. Yes, we are all entitled to our own opinions, just some of our opinions are better than others. RunninWild, um, don't even have a response that was so ridiculous. But, the reason I posted my opinions here is because we have met many new kids on the block and they always seem to have the same questions and make many of the same mistakes. I would think that free advice that you don't even have to read or follow would be welcome, but not everyone has enough intellect, or manners, to realize the benefit of another person's experience and to possibly learn from those who have a bit of it. I don't claim to be a swing guru, I don't have any golden eggs to sell, but I do have a few ideas, intended for the general populace, that might come in handy. My thoughts are that if you enjoy, or can use the info, great. If not, maybe just pass through and avoid the negative thoughts. After all, isn't this supposed to be about love and sex and everyone getting along? Let's try to keep this thread focused on the intended purpose, which is info for noobs. Simple as that. Peace out. Headed to Das Energy. Woot Woot.
Let's try to keep this thread focused on the intended purpose, which is info for noobs. Simple as that. Peace out. Headed to Das Energy. Woot Woot.Alot of people dont care about this but i do a lot.
Just went back and reviewed what I wrote on the first page. Thought I would see if I still agree, after being tossed around in this wonderful LS, if my views have changed. I think my ideas are still good, though I might have used the words "always" and "never" a little less. Each of us finds our own way that works for us. I still think my recommendations are good and a great way to protect yourself if discretion is a must. Just had some friends sign on and they asked me to renew this, so here it is. 
Thank you for this!
Great post sameroomonly! We echo the "trust your gut!" That one point has saved us countless issues.
SAMEROOMONLY,
Thanks for the post, there were great points we might have had to learn the hard way!
MR. and MRS. Hugs
Thanks for the post, there were great points we might have had to learn the hard way!
MR. and MRS. Hugs
Every time I write on here I do it with a full erection. Just sayin...
So I just have to say I'm probably the most patient guy out there to meet I'm not the wham bam kind of guy nor the one night stand kind of guy but the kind of guy that likes to meet up with people couples the single ladies get to know them chat with people and see were things could go from there if nothing works out then just politely move on or if anything else at least you've had maybe made good friends out of the whole thing I think that's what makes it harder for us single guys is the other guys that go the opposite direction instead of tring to chat with people first but anyway hopefully that all made some sense
So I just have to say I'm probably the most patient guy out there to meet I'm not the wham bam kind of guy nor the one night stand kind of guy but the kind of guy that likes to meet up with people couples the single ladies get to know them chat with people and see were things could go from there if nothing works out then just politely move on or if anything else at least you've had maybe made good friends out of the whole thing I think that's what makes it harder for us single guys is the other guys that go the opposite direction instead of tring to chat with people first but anyway hopefully that all made some sense
69, that is the longest sentence I have ever read. haha. I don't envy you single men. You have an uphill battle.
SAMEROOMONLY wrote:
69, that is the longest sentence I have ever read. haha. I don't envy you single men. You have an uphill battle.
I was putting in my own punctuations in without even realizing there were none. Hahaha
these online blogs have ruined my grammar...
SAMEROOMONLY wrote:
69, that is the longest sentence I have ever read. haha. I don't envy you single men. You have an uphill battle.
I was putting in my own punctuations in without even realizing there were none. Hahaha
these online blogs have ruined my grammar...