just wondering why is this site and many others like it so clickish when a newbie comes in to that chat room and trys to make new friends or be part of the discussion most people act like you never even talked to them why is this maybe someone could enlighten me on the rules
There are a couple of them on here there is no way around it. I will tell you that when people get to know you better, you will be better off. Get to some meet and greets and meet some people. You will get to know people faster that way.
Sleddoggs,
I think this topic has been beat in the ground. I don't have a clue why some couples or girls can't just say hello, or be nice. Call it bad manners, call it stuck up, but bottom line you should stop worrying about it. If they want to be bitches more likely then not others know it as well.
But what you think is someone being snobby could be just be other factors as well. Maybe they think your a single guy (surprise many don't look at profiles). One problem on video chat is that there are many more "men" online each night then women. Don't know why, but for some reason chat just draws a 2 to 1 split men to women (or worse).
Example, when I log on as ABCMAN, I may get 3 or 4 cam views. Maybe 3 are women, and the other is usually a guy for some reason. But when I peek over my wifes shoulder (ABCWOMAN), she can have 20 plus viewing her, and 95% are men. And many are private messaging her, and those who know her know she's never a snob. But sometimes she just can't keep up and see all the "hello's"
So the best thing is not to jump to conclusions, do what Angeleyes suggests. Attend a few meet and greets, find out what their profile names are at the parties, and you'll find it much easier to find someone to chat away with and then newbies will be thinking your the snob.
Welcome by the way.
I think this topic has been beat in the ground. I don't have a clue why some couples or girls can't just say hello, or be nice. Call it bad manners, call it stuck up, but bottom line you should stop worrying about it. If they want to be bitches more likely then not others know it as well.
But what you think is someone being snobby could be just be other factors as well. Maybe they think your a single guy (surprise many don't look at profiles). One problem on video chat is that there are many more "men" online each night then women. Don't know why, but for some reason chat just draws a 2 to 1 split men to women (or worse).
Example, when I log on as ABCMAN, I may get 3 or 4 cam views. Maybe 3 are women, and the other is usually a guy for some reason. But when I peek over my wifes shoulder (ABCWOMAN), she can have 20 plus viewing her, and 95% are men. And many are private messaging her, and those who know her know she's never a snob. But sometimes she just can't keep up and see all the "hello's"
So the best thing is not to jump to conclusions, do what Angeleyes suggests. Attend a few meet and greets, find out what their profile names are at the parties, and you'll find it much easier to find someone to chat away with and then newbies will be thinking your the snob.
Welcome by the way.
Sounds about right ABCman...But I'm guessing for the same reasons...many woman are just plain tired of fending of an agressive guy who thinks just because the girl was kind enough to say hi...she WANTS him...BAD! ust a thought...
And Welcome Sleddoggs!
And Welcome Sleddoggs!
TIFFND wrote:
Sounds about right ABCman...But I'm guessing for the same reasons...many woman are just plain tired of fending of an agressive guy who thinks just because the girl was kind enough to say hi...she WANTS him...BAD! ust a thought...
And Welcome Sleddoggs!
But I thought HI was just short for "Holy shit I want fucked now damnit!!!!!"
It has an H and an I in it...
LMAO
Smart assery aside, you have a possible point though.
Ok i will not be a hypocrite on this subject, but occasionally if I am not attracted to the photo and or the profile I will not respond.. but then again I have had the same thing happen to me.. I will start a conversation and they won't talk to me.. Guess it was my breath.. LOL... I will admit i have never been to a meet and greet and I don't want to show up alone..
Rule #1 of Swingville: Never take anything personally 
THOUGHTGARDEN wrote:
Rule #1 of Swingville: Never take anything personally
Rule #2 of Swingville: If you get offended by something someone says, refer to rule #1
Hey SLEDDOGGS seeing you up north here as well... you might want to come to the Northern Nights meet and greet coming up in two weeks (Aug 7th) and meet alot of the northern crowd....
MAKEMECUMHARD wrote:
Ok i will not be a hypocrite on this subject, but occasionally if I am not attracted to the photo and or the profile I will not respond..
Being the female of a couple with my own profile I do have to admit that sometimes it is frustrating and difficult to deal with all the "hi's" (being the "I want to fuck you" lol) when you go into chat...but I will not NOT respond just because I'm not attracted to their profile pic, and I think that may be some of the snubish/cliquish responses the op is referring too...I always try to at least say hello and if I'm not interested then just say so...but I'm sure it's even harder for you being a single female with the "inviting" profile pic you have
SLEDDOGS, welcome, and just remember it takes time, once everyone see's that you're a nice person just there wanting to chat and not trying to be an aggressive jerk and they see you coming back, you'll slowly start to get more responses...just like being the new kid in school or the new person at work, it all just takes time and Mr_Trixiee is correct...we have a BLAST at the Northern Nights meet n greets...you guys should come out and say hello...kisses...Naugh-Ty
TIFFND wrote:
Sounds about right ABCman...But I'm guessing for the same reasons...many woman are just plain tired of fending of an agressive guy who thinks just because the girl was kind enough to say hi...she WANTS him...BAD! ust a thought...
And Welcome Sleddoggs!
Maybe it some cases, LOL, but not all cases. Actually as a guy, I've had ladies that I've had ZERO sexual interest in say hello, and I'm always friendly, but not to encouraging as to lead them on.
However, you maybe hitting to close to home in regards to males in general. Men are not as gifted when it comes to perception. I think what you suggest, you give an inch they take a mile maybe actually more true then I or other males like to admit.
If your one of these males, this site isn't some damn porn site, no it's not a buffet where you can just pile on what ever you want! These ladies have feelings, they can ignore us very easily, and perhaps a "hello how are you" and the next comment does not mention her breasts or how big a cock you have, maybe a good way to change this perception among these ladies on chat. I really can see Naughty and Tiffnd's point on this thread.. thanks ladies!
[quote=MR_TRIXIEE]Hey SLEDDOGGS seeing you up north here as well... you might want to come to the Northern Nights meet and greet coming up in two weeks (Aug 7th) and meet alot of the northern crowd....
would love to come to the meet and greet but we will be im malad racing horses and as to all these other responces they are all great advice and i see what your all saying and i guess my point is that not all newbies are the same and maybe we should be givin the benefit of the doubt because not all of us are like that now it is my understanding that this site and others like it are for meeting people all i was asking is how is this supposed to happen if ya can't get in any way thanks for the good advise and we're not giving up lol
would love to come to the meet and greet but we will be im malad racing horses and as to all these other responces they are all great advice and i see what your all saying and i guess my point is that not all newbies are the same and maybe we should be givin the benefit of the doubt because not all of us are like that now it is my understanding that this site and others like it are for meeting people all i was asking is how is this supposed to happen if ya can't get in any way thanks for the good advise and we're not giving up lol
Aawe! Be polite and honest....After all we are all adults at least I thought so!